It is rare to find somebody opposed to compassion. The challenge is not compassion. The challenge is not being a victim of your own compassion. Compassion is challenging. What is compassion and what is submission? So many abusers will happily take advantage of compassion and empathy. So many oppressors will appeal to compassion in the hopes that we will endure their oppression and abuse just a little bit longer.
And here is the secret. Consider the well-being of others. Consider the well-being. Do not sacrifice your well-being for their convenience. Consider their well-being. Do not capitulate to their well-being. You are of equal value to everyone you will every known. Consider their well-being, but do not rate their well-being above your own.
You will misjudge. You will make mistakes. You will screw up. You cannot prevent all mistakes. And so what do you do? You apologize. You make amends. You repair the damage done. You make up for missteps. You do you best to make things better. Apologize and make amends for missteps.
This may seem obvious. But the biggest obstacle to the practice of compassion is the Hungry Empire. The Hungry Empire weaponizes compassion against its subjects. And so, those who attempt to show compassion will be bled dry by a parasitic culture that only knows how to take and take without end. And rather than encourage the serfs to make amends, the Empire instead imposes punishment and revenge upon transgressors. And so those of us who set reasonable boundaries will often be villainized and prosecuted for daring to say: “That’s enough.”
Professor Harbinger's School for Villains 